Homer Simpson Must Die: Saving fatherhood from the bureaucrats ...

It's one thing picking to bits how dads are represented, as I try to do in this blog - but sometimes the problem is that they're not represented at all.

The Telegraph's story about Scotland's Ready Steady Baby leaflet is an example of where a public authority has taken the decision to airbrush fathers out of the picture altogether.?Seeking to erase one of the two most clearly understood labels through which we make sense of family relationships is apparently justifiable?in the name of equality for same-sex couples who have children.

Says who?! Certainly not the children.?If you're a man or woman in a parental relationship with a child, that child knows you as some kind of dad or mum - regardless of what they call you and certainly regardless of your sexual orientation, or whether or not you live with and/or are in a relationship with the child's other parent or parents. Mums and dads are grown-ups who look after you and love you with all their heart. Some people have more than one mum, some have more than one dad - some have a collection of both. Many call them something different, but they know exactly who and what they are and mean. Unlike bureaucrats, kids get this stuff.

And in my experience, most families that involve same-sex parents (including my own) get it too. Of course we need to think carefully about how we use language, and there's no doubt that words like 'father', 'mother', 'mum' and 'dad' contain baggage and can be used to shore up 'traditional' modes of thinking.

But heaven save us from 'parent', that catch-all refuge from controversy fast-becoming the mot du jour of the dead-handed bureaucrats!

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